I think a sexless relationship is theoretically possible but it would take an immense amount of love and discipline, like a stupidly high amount of both, consistently. In my view, sex is an expression of trust more than anything else, it's telling someone that you trust them to see every part of you, and interact with you in a way that's very intimate on both a primal and conscious level, and furthermore, it's extending the expectation of trust to the other person, inviting them to bear a cross with you in a sense. It's pushing the final boundary with someone and telling them you don't plan to judge them for anything that might be wrong with them, in the context of a relationship, anyways. All of this kind of falls apart when you apply it to casual sex, but casual sex, as a rule, is shallow by nature. Sex is kind of like candy or art. Aside from the reproductive function of sex, it's completely unnecessary, and even unhealthy if it becomes your main focus or an overindulgence, but at the same time, we need it to enrich our lives and the human experience. Imagine how awful life would be without things like candy or art, it would hardly be worth living, and in that way, all three of these things become necessary.
With all that said, I do think there's probably too much emphasis placed on sex these days. While I have nothing against LGBT folx, I do think it's very easy to fall into the trap of turning sexuality into a significant part of one's personality, although, there are also those who go in the other direction and feel the need to tout around how straight they are and such so I think it's a broader societal issue which is largely the product of marketing if you were to ask me. These days, pornography is widely available without any checks to the widest ever variety of people. I won't go into the rant on predatory advertisement because I already did that in a thread of old but to relate it to this conversation, I think people generally expect the porn experience out of sex these days and tend to be let down when actual sex is a lot quieter and less extreme, generally speaking. This can manifest in a lot of ways but it always relates to dissatisfaction with sex or some aspect of it; high beauty standards for women, and men feel like they need to have tenshi earth sized cocks to be viable and so on and so forth. I think sex has been democratized in a sense and put bluntly people are too stupid (or, more accurately in my eyes, too conditioned by th
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